"A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret." ~Proverbs11:13 I'm so blessed to have him sharing with me on everything.
Its like almost everything... I could tell him something I had done wrong when I was much younger.
I really thank God that I don't really have a burden to share with him about my past and he assure me that I can experience God's full measure of forgiveness when I submit my guilts and wrongs unto God. Many times, what keeps us from sharing our secret with the someone especially the one we love, is first and foremost, we fear betrayal. We wonder, "Can I trust my friend/mate to keep my secret?" I think this is the greatest reason on why we don't share with each other. Second, we fear that what we say will damage our realtionship. We afraid that after we share, our friend/mate will think lesss of us as a result of what we share. I mean this happen in many types of relationship: friedship, lovers, employer/employees. It's a tough stuff when I must learn to listen non-judmentally when someone share with me. We must listen nonjudmentally, if not they will close up. I really thank God that Eric and me are willing to risk sharing deep thoughts when we first met. We learn along the way to utterly committed to trustworthiness. It's really a process of building trust that we take small risks to see how each other react on each small sharing. Does he/she angry? Does he/she blab to friends? Does he/she withdraw? I learn that the response to the small risks we take determine how many secrets there in a relationship and if we have betray or demean someone on small things, how can we expect them to trust us with big thing? Deep sharing only come after we experienced safe sharing. Should I share every single sercet with my mate / close friends? No. I'm still learning to share by knowing the other person's spiritual maturity. The right time to share is always important. I'm learning to ask / evaluate before I share:
Has the Loard impress me to share?
Will it edify or encourage anyone if I share?
Will it clear the doubts / the air between?
Will it deepen our connection to each other?
What will happen if I dont share? I think we must learn to trust and be trustworthy in building a relationship...
Its wonderful when we have someone to share our secret joys, secret sorrows, failings, fears, doubts or even things that we feel guilty or feelings of inadequacy....
Sharing in love and for love is always healthy...We feel accepted, loved and not being judged. That's the greatest gift in life!~Praise God!~ | 
